How to be a woman

Steve Pavlina has been Dr. Phil to my inner Oprah for a while now. I stumbled upon his articles on self-discipline a while ago, and since then regularly browse his site. He is currently looking for articles on “How to be a woman”. So here it is, a perspective from a twenty something woman on being one.

1. Treasure your body, mind, and soul.

A woman knows her humanness is supported by honoring these three. Although it’s becoming cliché to hear it, we all could take greater care of ourselves. Exercising, eating well, meditating, and caring for one’s mind are directly proportional to living optimal lives.

2. Embrace your inner feminist.

Regardless of the confusion, key definition of feminism is the policy, practice or advocacy of political, economic, and social equality for women. Thanks to this policy many women in the world today are voting, choosing their careers, making decisions about their bodies, and having a voice in societies they live in. Embracing one’s inner feminist means promoting ideas of equality in our lives, and in lives of those women who are not as fortunate.

3. If the answer is ‘no’, ASK AGAIN!

Men are excellent at being assertive. Assertiveness may be one reason they often get ahead of women, especially in the workforce. They are unafraid to ask for something more than once, as should you be! So when you hear a negative in response to your inquiry about a better position, promotion, raise, and so on, relax. Recuperate, prepare your argument, and ask again! They can only say ‘no’ a limited amount of times before the answer is ‘yes’.

4. Take charge of your finances.

Abundance is the key to living the fullest life possible! Lady get a hold of thy finances! Start by appreciating what you have: relationships, friendships, food, home, shoes, hamster… Secondly, monitor your money flow to find out where you stand. Finally, develop your financial goals for the next 1, 5, and 10 years. (Joan Sotkin is a great resource.)

5. Apologize NOT for the life you want to lead.

Turn inward for any main decisions you want to accomplish in life. You may want to get married early and have a few kids. You may never want to get married. You may want to join the Peace Corps. You may want to dedicate yourself to partying. You may want to dedicate yourself to God. Whatever it is, make no apologies! You are the only authority in your life. Others’ respect and acceptance will not come because of your successes or failures, but because of your courage to live the life of your dreams.

6. Accept the generational and cultural differences.

Different generations differ on ‘how to be a woman’. To make it more confusing so do different cultures. Your mother may have been happy working a regular job, while you want to be the CEO. Your friend from Europe may use her flirtatiousness to get ahead while your neighbor may think ideas of woman-ness are completely off the wall. Release the need to be righteous! Accept that as long as the world exists there will be differences. And that there is a great learning in those differences everyone can profit from.

7. Men deserve direction to understand you better.

What it means to be a woman has changed dramatically in the past decades. Men in your life may be confused about their own definition of how to be men as it relates to you. Fearlessly approach this subject. They will be grateful that you are finding common ground together.

8. Explore your sexuality.

This can be simple, or complex. Either way, freely explore pleasures! Experiment with what you like. Discover your body. Love your body. Kiss. Make love. Caress. Read erotica. Share thoughts with your partner. Dress up the part. Step today into what you were afraid of yesterday.

9. Remember to laugh.

Laugh everywhere. Laugh anywhere. Laugh with friends, and alone. Let your soul, body, and mind unite in an orgasm of laughter.

This reaches the end of my little guide on ‘how to be a woman’. Enjoy your evening.

Love,

Lola.

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