EFT and David Childerley Part 2 – The Interview

January 2nd, 2009 § 0

First time I watched a Dave Childerley EFT video on youtube, I was swept away by his confidence, helpfulness, and warmth. He and Michelle, his wife, are my two favorite EFT success coaches. To my utter delight, Dave agreed to do an interview for CWL. Here it is!

LOLA:
Would you give us more detail about your new upcoming “Self Empowerment Show”: what inspired you to create it, what do you and Michelle hope to accomplish through such a show, and who is the audience you are targeting?

DAVE:
The new show is about helping people become self empowered by sharing the truth with them. The truth of who they are, why they feel the way they do and why self love is so important to the immune system and eliminating poor health. The new show will be interactive and will feature special guests that will answer viewers’ questions.  My goal is to tell people the truth as fear is generated by lack of knowledge.

Empowered with new knowledge, people can change their lives fast using new easy-to-use energy techniques like EFT and the Huna. The show will appeal to everyone who feels emotions from children right up to the elder generations. The show is about teaching people to detach from the world drama and learning to take back their power to create love and peace within. It is my intention that the show will reach the masses with a global self-empowering message of truth and hope.

It is also my intention during 2009, that my new ’self empowerment’ TV web show is broadcast on mainstream TV so that it really starts to reach the masses for free. This is my dream, to reach the masses with free truthful knowledge that empowers them from within. This is my challenge and I will succeed because I expect it to and I am going to allow it to happen with no resistance from me. This how I manifest my wants, I simply want them, allow them to unfold and do not offer any resistance to my wants flowing to me. I just believe they will come if I want them enough. It’s no magic, it’s just the self belief that I deserve and nothing is impossible in my world. If everyone thought this way, what a world we could create!

LOLA:
I love your website www.myGenie.tv as it is based on a concept of this great digital library where one can choose a video to tap along to from their living room. (It’s also worth mentioning that you are tackling a lot of different issues other EFT coaches are afraid to delve into (such as sexual dysfunction, etc…)) If one is a beginner, and wants to improve in few areas what would you recommend as a course for such an individual?

DAVE:
The myGenie.tv provides all the self help tools needed to break free from self limitations, fear, and poor health. We also help members with sexual challenges as I feel that this is a big issue in most people’s lives. I have even been criticised by other EFT coaches who feel offended that I should be so open and public with my offerings!! Simply, I do not care what they think as it’s none of their business. I only care what my members think and they are asking for help with these issues. Also, if I give all the answers out online, who will pay ‘$200 an hour plus’ for their best advise?

It’s important to remember that there are many success coaches and therapists out there who are not in truth with themselves and they see me as a real threat to their income.

These ‘old-school’ therapists see each new client as a revenue stream for so many sessions. During these sessions they intentionally stir up the emotional pot to extend the amount of therapy sessions they get paid to help with. This is the ’standard-old-school’ therapy model that is dying, and is becoming obsolete because it was built on unethical foundations and was bound to fail as the people realised the scam. I believe now is the time for a change in how people develop themselves and myGenie.tv is here to provide the online low cost solution needed.

I always recommend that new members start with a video series called ‘7 days to freedom’ that features the EFT or emotional freedom technique. This video series will educate you about you and quickly show you how to overcome your current situation so that you can restore balance and harmony to your life.

Each video recommends a period of days that the technique should be practised for quickest and best results although this is flexible. The members work at their own pace and can use the videos over and over again or until they feel better. Some people let go quicker than others so the site allows everyone to develop at their own rate that feels good for them. The ‘7 days’ program is an excellent place to start and by the time you’re finished, you’ll know what your main success blocks are and can then select the appropriate video to work with.

New members also have access to the sites unique and very popular ‘Q&A forum’, where they can ask personal questions and receive fast responses from a team of qualified therapists and success coaches including myself.

LOLA:
How much of your success today can be contributed to practicing EFT on yourself?

DAVE:
All of my success today is down to me.

EFT was one of many external self help tools that I used to access my real power within. This is what most people miss in the self help process because they believe that the external tool, in this case EFT, will cure them and if it doesn’t they tell others that EFT does not work. EFT is only an external tool used to access your power within. If EFT doesn’t do it for you, find another tool and try that. Sooner or later you will find a tool that resonates with you and it will enable you to connect to your inner power so that you can start moving forward in your life.

My success is down to me investing the time to explore different techniques until I found one that resonated. I must say though, EFT is by far the most powerful tool out there right now. EFT helped me clear the bulk of my issues fast and I still use the technique every day to keep me on track. I see it like brushing my teeth, every day I take 5 minutes to balance my energy and to say thanks for my connection to myself.

In my world, no one external tool or self development technique is any better than the other. It is your thoughts about them that makes the difference to the results you get.  That’s why everyone has different experiences. People try many different therapies but sooner or later they find one and their belief changes about what is possible for them and off they go saying that therapy is the best around.

Put simply, the therapy ‘technique’ is just a tool to help you to access your inner power to heal the self and to release inner negative emotions.  If you have any thoughts that it will not work for you, it won’t. Your beliefs are far more powerful than any ‘technique’ outside of you. The real power to heal yourself is within you. The techniques just allow you to connect internally, release and move on.

(LOLA’s Note: Now you see why Dave’s absolutely best! I used to wonder how very successful people got where they are before EFT, but then I remember that everyone has their own tool to access the inner power. This power to live magical lives is already within us, and EFT is one of many tools to help us get there. If it doesn’t work, something else will. And whatever tool helps you do it is the tool for you, because all the success is already within. Our only task is to access it.)

LOLA:
What other techniques do you find crucial in self development?

DAVE:
An open mind and self love are the two crucial components to self development. Most people develop slowly because they hold themselves back by their own beliefs about what is possible for them. They believe that only external help can cure them. They slowly get there in the end but only after they realise that they held the power within all the time and that nothing external from them will cure them. An open mind allows the individual to be guided within for help and to move away from external guidance.

Self love is your key to unlock who you really are and spend the rest of your life in happiness and bliss. The human body is simple to understand… We all have 2 choices in life.

1) If you love yourself… you will be healthy, loving and in a permanent state of joy.

2) If you hate yourself or any part of yourself… you will become unhealthy, depressed and in a permanent state of fear and worry.

You have tried… ‘not loving yourself’ and it clearly doesn’t work so why not now try the opposite and see if that works better. Try loving yourself just the way you are and experience amazing miracles happen in all areas of your life.

LOLA:
Within the practice of EFT a lot of importance is being placed on being specific when resolving energy blocks. What are the benefits of tapping on the specific issue without necessarily wanting to go back to the first time that the issue came about?

DAVE:
When using any external tool such as EFT, it’s important to remember that no one needs to relive the original trauma again in order to release it and move forward. Your unconscious mind knows exactly what caused the original trauma and has been protecting you from reliving it for a good reason… you do not need to know! A higher part of you already knows and is prompting you from within to let go and move on. The way you feel now is a reminder from within that you need to let go of it in the now and move on.

When I help someone move on my videos, we would tap on something like…

‘Even though…  my unconscious mind knows the root cause to my issue and has lovingly protected me from reliving it, I now choose to release how I feel now and let go of any past connections to it’

The way I teach is to educate the person about how their mind and energy system works so that they understand why they feel the way they do. With new knowledge about the self, one can break free from fear and self limitations and once again enjoy freedom, health and happiness.

LOLA:
How do you recommend EFT be introduced to skeptics, especially people you are certain could be helped so much with the techniques?

DAVE:
I do not recommend introducing EFT to skeptics who are not ready for change…. that’s why they are still skeptics! When someone becomes really sick of how they feel, they take action and do something about it. These are the people I help. I never try and introduce my teachings to anyone unless they ask for my help. I simply allow them to be as they are. I allow them to have their own experience and if they choose to be skeptical than that’s their choice. I give zero energy to skeptics as it’s a waste of time. I only give my energy to those who ask for it.

(LOLA’s Note: Brilliant point! I have trouble with this as I want to help everyone. However, not everyone is ready for EFT, and some people may never want to try it. Trying to persuade skeptics truly is an energy waster.)

LOLA:
Do you do EFT with your children? If yes, how do they explain the use of it to other children that may not have been introduced to it yet?

DAVE:
No, I do not use EFT with my son who’s 11 as he already realises that his power comes from within him and when he’s faced with a challenge, he simply chooses the desired outcome he wants using his mind and his point of focus. In my experience, children take to learning EFT very quickly. My son never used the technique because he has never needed to. He is very well balanced, healthy and doing well in his studies so I never felt the need to use it with him. He does know how to use the technique and has showed other children at his school how to use it. If he ever comes to me with an issue and asks for help, I would use EFT but only if he was unable to work it out in his mind first.

EFT is a great tool for kids to learn and should be taught at every school so that children could deal with emotional challenges as they go and not store them all up until they are older. They should be taught to… ‘Release & let go’ as emotional challenges arise.

(LOLA’s Note:  I wish all parents would do what Dave does. A lot of unnecessary later heartbreak would be saved if we all learned how powerful we are when we are kids instead of ‘growing up’, ‘getting serious’, ‘facing the reality’…)

LOLA:
What are your and Michelle’s plans for this upcoming 2009 year as it relates to your self coaching, and development business?

DAVE:
Our plans for 2009 are simple. We intend to produce more and more videos for myGenie.tv and youtube that teach people how to become more and more self empowered.

I also intend speaking at global events throughout the year to promote the whole concept of ‘detaching from external drama and going within to take back your power’.

Michelle will also continue her work on the Genie whilst developing her new show on youtube about increasing the awareness of animal communication, and how we can create a closer relationship with all creatures.

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!THANK YOU DAVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LINKS:
Dave’s Self Empowerment show.
Dave and Michelle on youtube.
Dave and Michelle’s website: www.my Genie.tv.

Hope you enjoyed this. Have a lovely weekend.

Lola.

EFT and David Childerley: Part 1

January 1st, 2009 § 0

Over the holidays I had the pleasure to interview possibly the best EFT success coach in the world: David Childerley. Dave was kind enough to share the plans for his new Self Empowerment show, AND answer additional questions. For this I am very grateful!

Before I share the interview with you, I’d like to take a moment and write a little bit about EFT. EFT is an energy therapy – often described as acupuncture without needles – based on a theory that disruption of a body’s energy system causes negative thoughts, emotions, and illnesses. Roots of this theory are traced to traditional Chinese medicine which placed a great value on the body-mind connection while healing. In the 90’s, a Stanford engineer Gary Craig combined these ideas with positive affirmations to create a new form of therapy called Emotional Freedom Techniques or EFT. EFT is very simple, and it involves light tapping on specific body points while repeating affirmations. Free manual can be found on Gary Craig’s website: www.emofree.com. (It has been translated into other languages as well.) For a demonstration of EFT please watch this David Childerley video on law of attraction.

Why this ridiculous looking procedure works is beyond me. When you see it done the first couple of times, you’ll think people in the videos have gone bonkers! I still don’t understand how tapping yields such great results. Regardless, it does! I’ve used it to successfully resolve war trauma, you know the us(ual): fear of intersections (snipers), panic attacks, nightmares… EFT helped resolve all these, easily, and for free. Traditional therapy route would still have me lying on some comfy couch admiring my nails.

If you would like to improve your life in some area it’s worth trying EFT. People have gotten great results for weight loss, allergies, illnesses, burns, negative feelings, depression, sexual dysfunction, abundance, eye sight, and many more… The worst it can happen while trying EFT is that you may feel silly for a few moments! While the traditional therapy has been around for decades, everyone knows at least a few individuals who went to therapy only to gain limited results. So why not try something new?

I highly recommend the following websites to get you into the EFT groove:

www.emofree.com
Gary Craig’s website (founder of EFT), providing a free EFT manual, Q&A forum, and plethora of articles on EFT and its uses.

www.attractingabundance.com
Carol Look’s website (EFT master who worked closely with Gary Craig before developing her own field of mastery within EFT: abundance). Definitely sign up for her free newsletter with tips on different issues.

And I saved the best for last:

www.myGenie.tv
David and Michelle Childerley’s website.

In my research of EFT I often found websites that promised to resolve this issue for $125.99, or asked me to go to a $500 seminar to access my inner child, or change my life with a $79.95 DVD. Like in any new field that’s becoming popular, it is getting harder to find people who are genuinely interested in helping others. A while ago however, I stumbled upon one of Dave Childerley’s videos and have since found other resources by him, and his wife Michelle. Best by far is their website which is a library of videos for various ailments and problems. The name of the website, myGenie, describes Dave’s core belief: everyone is powerful within themselves, and EFT is just one of the tools to help us access that inner genius. This is a refreshing idea!

I have since contacted Dave and he graciously agreed to do an interview. I will be posting it tomorrow so stay tuned!

<3, Lola.

(Lola’s Note: You can read the interview here.)

Siege in 40 Pictures – Sarajevo’s Magical Realism (92-95)

September 18th, 2008 § 1

Feelings intertwine today in regards to that time. The greatest achievement of the nineties for us Sarajevans was not surviving until peace, but living during war. Paralleling the smell of gun powder were citizens who went to school, work, and universities as if it was a regular time, and a regular place. We ran the snipered intersections on our way to the theater to produce Ravel’s bolero with a modern twist. We ceased to be victimized. It ceased to be a war. It was just an anachronism. A mistake in time.

I found these photos online, and am borrowing them to express my unusual nostalgia of that time of magical realism in Sarajevo. They are by a Bosnian war photojournalist, Rikard Larma, currently a Philadelphia resident.

Mr. Larma captured my sentiments exactly: we really were just a page out of Marquez’ books. This particular set of photos he called “A Siege in 40 pictures.” (Opsada u 40 Slika.)


1984. – Year of the Olympics.  Sarajevo, a perfect medium between East and West of Europe was chosen to host the Olympics and represent that different sort of thinking brings beauty into life too.  In war only memories remained, and this Vucko (mascot of the games) poster is now trashed, together with cans of despicable ICAR canned meat that was given as Humanitarian Aid.


A UN soldier sits here with some kids (who were my age at the time). We called the UN Smurfs – less because of blue helmets they wore, and more for the nonchalant behavior.  They did absolutely nothing to help solve anything that went on in the city.  Because of this, Sarajevans are greatly skeptical of any UN missions set up to ‘watch the peace’.


Perhaps the most affected were the elderly.  At an age when life should return upon them hard work and effort they put into it, they were forced to witness their country, their way of life, their culture, and their city collapse. Many wished they had ‘gone’ before the start of war. I often wished the same for my grandfather. Had he died just a few months earlier, in 1992, he would have died a satisfied man.


This is the City Hall, greatest library of Sarajevo. It was burnt to the ground in a shell caused fire in 1992.

Remainders. Reminders.


Definitely not an everyday picture, but still charming, very charming. No regular means of transportation, but when life gives you shit and genocide, well then you have to make your own carriage. <3.


Or wait for peace… Like this little fellow.

More photos can be found here.
More about the photographer, Rikard Larma.
I hope you enjoy them as much as I.

Yours with love,
Lola

P.S. I added descriptions to photos, but will gladly remove if asked by author.

Lola’s Story – Part 1

May 27th, 2008 § 1

(Photo borrowed from GoofyAsians.)

I’m often asked about my first impressions of America…

The beginning

(William Gibson wrote Pattern Recognition, a story where, after a long flight, the main character usually has to wait for her soul to join. Souls, they travel on a different frequency.)

My soul waited for me in Washington. She traveled one very long day. Early in the morning, she went with mom and dad to Split’s airport, from where she jumped over the Atlantic with no problems, and found herself on that same morning in line for immigration in New York City. There, together with the parents, she started documentation of her new life, met a refugee family from Kiseljak also going to Washington (city, she found out, not the state,) and for the first time saw someone of another race. After a short ride from first to second airport through streets of wild New York, all found themselves on a small plane. While mom and dad hurried to plan for new and prosperous future, she sat and watched New York disappear into the night, only to quickly be surpassed by Washington lights.

Washington’s runway was so close to the river that soul grabbed a parchment of mom’s blazer and pretended it didn’t. After all, she was already at an age when mom’s reassurance was not in style. Soon after, she crawled out of the plane, and for the first time stood in her new city. Impatiently she waited for the luggage, which was supposed to pass through the belt any minute. Those bags lived through peace, and war, and Sarajevo tunnel, and in their rusty orange-ness were the only living evidence of their past.

Uncle’s hair grayed since the last time they saw each other. Wearing a most beautiful suit and a bow tie, he came hours before time as if waiting for a delegation. As was custom, everyone kissed each other, and reminisced of their last most preceding encounter. Later they all sat into a car called ‘Spirit’, with whom the soul struck up an immediate friendship, and went on a tour.

Washington was a strange creature: never ending streets, valleys of politely cut grass, Roman buildings, quietness, and the smell of August. A tall building with a dome and marble white stairs tricked her. It was not, as European post cards would have it, the White House, but Congress. All in all, the soul was content that the White House resembled a villa more than a castle; a warm center of the world. Everything here to the soul seemed attractive, and approachable.

Only one moment killed the idyll, when a few very loud cars passed by, honking incredible sirens. She ran into Spirit, and hid her head in mom’s lap. She forgot she grew up, but she remembered all the war’s sirens that sent them running for underground. She relaxed soon after, even crossed the street by herself. Looking far in the distance, she was satisfied that Washington had no mountains; possibility of snipers, then, was smaller.

She still felt a little unusual.

But that midnight, while traveling through Crystal City, city’s suburb of tall buildings that drank the sun during the day, so at night it looked like a field of flashing carnations, I was ready to jump into my soul. Melting into each other, we joined mom, dad, and uncle and planned our new and prosperous future.

How to be a woman

May 13th, 2008 § 5

Steve Pavlina has been Dr. Phil to my inner Oprah for a while now. I stumbled upon his articles on self-discipline a while ago, and since then regularly browse his site. He is currently looking for articles on “How to be a woman”. So here it is, a perspective from a twenty something woman on being one.

1. Treasure your body, mind, and soul.

A woman knows her humanness is supported by honoring these three. Although it’s becoming cliché to hear it, we all could take greater care of ourselves. Exercising, eating well, meditating, and caring for one’s mind are directly proportional to living optimal lives.

2. Embrace your inner feminist.

Regardless of the confusion, key definition of feminism is the policy, practice or advocacy of political, economic, and social equality for women. Thanks to this policy many women in the world today are voting, choosing their careers, making decisions about their bodies, and having a voice in societies they live in. Embracing one’s inner feminist means promoting ideas of equality in our lives, and in lives of those women who are not as fortunate.

3. If the answer is ‘no’, ASK AGAIN!

Men are excellent at being assertive. Assertiveness may be one reason they often get ahead of women, especially in the workforce. They are unafraid to ask for something more than once, as should you be! So when you hear a negative in response to your inquiry about a better position, promotion, raise, and so on, relax. Recuperate, prepare your argument, and ask again! They can only say ‘no’ a limited amount of times before the answer is ‘yes’.

4. Take charge of your finances.

Abundance is the key to living the fullest life possible! Lady get a hold of thy finances! Start by appreciating what you have: relationships, friendships, food, home, shoes, hamster… Secondly, monitor your money flow to find out where you stand. Finally, develop your financial goals for the next 1, 5, and 10 years. (Joan Sotkin is a great resource.)

5. Apologize NOT for the life you want to lead.

Turn inward for any main decisions you want to accomplish in life. You may want to get married early and have a few kids. You may never want to get married. You may want to join the Peace Corps. You may want to dedicate yourself to partying. You may want to dedicate yourself to God. Whatever it is, make no apologies! You are the only authority in your life. Others’ respect and acceptance will not come because of your successes or failures, but because of your courage to live the life of your dreams.

6. Accept the generational and cultural differences.

Different generations differ on ‘how to be a woman’. To make it more confusing so do different cultures. Your mother may have been happy working a regular job, while you want to be the CEO. Your friend from Europe may use her flirtatiousness to get ahead while your neighbor may think ideas of woman-ness are completely off the wall. Release the need to be righteous! Accept that as long as the world exists there will be differences. And that there is a great learning in those differences everyone can profit from.

7. Men deserve direction to understand you better.

What it means to be a woman has changed dramatically in the past decades. Men in your life may be confused about their own definition of how to be men as it relates to you. Fearlessly approach this subject. They will be grateful that you are finding common ground together.

8. Explore your sexuality.

This can be simple, or complex. Either way, freely explore pleasures! Experiment with what you like. Discover your body. Love your body. Kiss. Make love. Caress. Read erotica. Share thoughts with your partner. Dress up the part. Step today into what you were afraid of yesterday.

9. Remember to laugh.

Laugh everywhere. Laugh anywhere. Laugh with friends, and alone. Let your soul, body, and mind unite in an orgasm of laughter.

This reaches the end of my little guide on ‘how to be a woman’. Enjoy your evening.

Love,

Lola.

(Bosnian) Coffee Recipe

April 14th, 2008 § 1

What better way to start off a morning than with a smooth and strong cup of coffee? I drink the Bosnian kind. Same or very similar way of preparing coffee can be attributed to other Mediterranean countries and beyond.

You will need:
Ground Coffee (2 tsp of coffee per 1 cup of water);
A Coffee Pot;
Espresso Coffee Cups;
Water;
Sugar, milk or cream at your preference.

Where to get it?
Coffee – supermarkets in most places in Europe will have ground coffee already bagged. In other countries most international food stores carry ground coffee as well. If one is not near, you can go to any grocery store and find the coffee aisle. Once there, pick your choice of coffee, (or even mix it up), and grind it until it is sugar-like in density.
Coffee pot – preferably you already have something of the sort, (something like here or here). If not, you can prepare it in a small pot. (If you are to become a regular drinker of this type of coffee, I highly recommend getting a coffee pot. Something in its architecture produces delicious taste over, and over again.)
Espresso cups – this coffee is strong, and one to two espresso cups will be enough to satisfy even the most dedicated of java-heads. I promise. Some affordable cups may be found here . World market also has a great selection, here.

Preparation:
-Bring water to boil in the coffee pot on the stovetop.
-Stir the coffee as you put it, (again, this is 1.5 tsp of coffee per 1 mug of water).
-Stir some more and remove from the stove for about 10-15 seconds.
-Put it back on the hot stovetop for another 10-15 seconds and let the coffee rise. It will make a thick coating that will subside once you remove it from the stove.
-Serve hot in espresso cups, (add sugar, milk or cream at your preference).

Ready to go pro? May I also suggest adding rahat lokum (aka Turkish Delight), to be eaten slowly while sipping the coffee.

Enjoy!

Lola

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